I often wonder why people avoid challenging emotions. I am a very curious person and become intrigued by why we do the things we do. Partly because I like feeling empowered to know that I can change the circumstances of my life instead of being controlled by them.
I'm also curious as to what the barriers are or could be when I’m unable to entertain other possibilities.
Is it avoidant behavior? If so, what am I avoiding and why?
What other emotions am I avoiding regarding that issue?
What is it that I am afraid of?
How can I confront that thing that is confronting me to see what else it could be?
What would my life look like if I were able to do so?
These are some of the questions I ask myself now.
But trust me when I tell you it was not always this way.
I would do anything to run from my emotions in the past
I felt overwhelmed by them.
I felt powerless against them.
I felt out of control.
Trying to control the outcome.
I lost all my confidence to overcome challenges.
I didn't trust myself..and my decision-making skills.
And questioned everything..even when it felt right.
I didn't know I had options.
I felt trapped many times.
And found myself doing the opposite of what I wanted to do.
Every time it left like I was in a loop that I could not get out of.
Everything felt like the end of the world for me.
I wanted to escape it all.
And most times I did.
Engaging in behaviors to escape the thoughts and pain I was feeling.
Then felt terrible afterward.
I lost my ability to see things in any other way other than what I was used to seeing them as.
That everything was “bad”.
And “bad” things were just happening to me.
And I had no say so in the matter.
I was just existing and feeling taken advantage of.
My story at the time was I am a helpless person that people take advantage of.
So, I watched to see what people would do to me when I came in contact with them.
I did not trust that they had good intentions for me.
So I sabotaged a lot of relationships.
And always blamed other people for why things went bad.
I was the victim.
People were doing things to me.
And the more those things happened to me.
The more I drowned in sorrow, unable to cope with my emotions, and the more I wanted to do anything to escape it.
It felt brutal
I didn't even know myself
I didn't know what was good for me anymore or at all.
I tried going to a psychic to tell me what to do, and they told me what I wanted to hear, which was people were out to get me and nothing was my fault.
I watched countless youtube videos on how to feel better about myself, and learned the skills but did not implement them in my life.
Because I didn't know how.
The skills stayed at the analytical level.
But I could not emotionally process them.
So my life stayed the same for a very long time.
I read lots of self-help books to see what I could do because I wanted to keep trying things out on my own to fix myself.
And nothing helped.
I rationalized everything.
And although I was miserable, I thought I could handle what was happening to me on my own.
Nothing worked, and I wasted valuable time of my life and some serious money with no real results.
I did not know that life could be so much better on the other side of understanding my emotions.
I did not know that I could feel free of the pain and suffering I was putting myself through.
I did not know that I could change the kind of ENERGY that I wanted in my life.
I thought I had to settle for what it was.
With no clue that I could choose what I wanted it to be.
It was not until I decided that enough was enough.
It was not until I said I refuse to live my life feeling tortured by my own thoughts of despair.
It was not until I decided that there has to be another way.
And today I am going to share with you how you too can unlock your relationship with your emotions.
So you can feel more empowered.
So that you can be more self-aware.
So that you can feel more in control.
So that you can allow yourself to experience emotions in a whole new way.
So that you too can use your once perceived challenging emotions to your advantage.
So that you too can help other people do the same.
The simple secret to this was ACCEPTANCE AND ALLOWING.
I decided to stop fighting against myself and my emotions and just let it be.
I decided that my emotions were messengers helping me to navigate through life.
I learned that I could sit with my feelings instead of rejecting them.
I decided to honor what my emotions were communicating to me.
Most times I found out that what I was feeling was just FEAR.
FALSE EVIDENCE APPEARING REAL.
And it was only REAL because I gave my emotions so much power and control over my life.
It became REAL because I ignored my own power to change my circumstances.
It became REAL because I didn't trust myself at all.
So how did I do it, you may ask?
I started to see my emotions as my friend.
Something that is there to guide me to make better decisions instead of them working against me.
I stopped making stories that said I couldn't do something.
Instead, I changed the narrative that I could.
And I did by being intentional.
Intentional on the person I was becoming.
Intentional on the feelings I wanted to entertain.
Intentional about caring for myself.
And by making time to sit with my feelings, I realized I was caring for myself.
I no longer wanted to escape from it.
I welcomed them and honored them and became grateful that I felt alive to feel them.
I journaled about my feelings.
I journaled about the stories I was telling myself that was no longer serving me.
I journaled about the stories I wanted to tell myself that most aligned with me and who I was becoming.
And once I took those steps...
My life changed.
And it changed for the better.
And now I am living my dream.
My dream of not feeling trapped by my emotions.
My dream of help you do the same.
And hoping that you too can help someone else one day do the same by first learning how your emotions work so you can take advantage of them.
So you too don't have to feel controlled by it.
Or by other people.
So you are no longer making excuses for why you do the things you do.
Rather you get to choose how you want to respond to life’s adversities.
Knowing that adversities make you stronger.
They help you grow to become the best version of yourself.
They are meant to take you to another level.
And that is only done by welcoming challenging emotions and working through them with time.
You deserve to experience the fullness of life.
You deserve a career that is so fulfilling you can't wait to go to work.
You deserve to live the life you have always wanted.
And if you think you need some support with mastering your emotions, no worries I am here for you.
Why do it alone when you don’t have to
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This is what makes life worth living.