Updated: Jun 16
Trying to unlearn a bad habit and stepping out of your comfort zone is one of the scariest things we can do. We as creatures of habit like to default to our comfort zones, whether we enjoy being there or not. Routines allow us to not have to worry about things going wrong. However, as we grow physically, the essence of who we are should grow and change as well. We outgrow our routines and comfort zones, just as we did our old clothes and shoes. At some, you became restricted by that clothing. Even if everyone loved that jacket, or complemented those old shoes, eventually continued usage will cause discomfort and will eventually turn to baggage.
If clothes you are wearing are still the same size, eventually you have to let them go. These are all those unprocessed survival tactics that we used to cope with trauma back in the day, like being aggressive or shutting down at the first sign of confrontation. Even though you find that you are no longer in that space where you no longer have to defend yourself from a bully or and abuser, you find yourself still snapping at people or having anxiety even thinking about having a social life. Another example is wanting a specific type of relationship from the same types of guys/girls, or being so scared of rejection, so you eventually self-sabotage whether you realize it or not.
Stepping out of your comfort zone allows you to try new things. It allows you to explore and find the things that you didn't know you loved. The great thing is eventually those new things will be a comfort zone as well. So the next time you start seeing yourself falling into patterns, allow yourself to try something new, take into consideration some of the things you are hearing. Date the guy that you wouldn't have originally gone for or talk to that girl that you feel is out of your league.
Fearing rejection and change can overwhelm us into making decisions that we know the answer to already, thus perpetuating the patterns that we see. Doing something over and over and expecting a different result each time is the definition of insanity. You know the results for option A because you pick it all the time, but you are upset
because you want to cultivate your life to have all things in it that you love. We have to welcome change and expand our horizons. Listen to the things of people taking a leap of faith and go after what you really want. It is then and only then that you are living your life to the fullest.